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Jun 6Liked by A Dope Black Girl With Anxiety

Girl! I was not expecting this ending. While reading from the beginning I was resonating so much with your reflections from the month of May. I am proud of you for setting boundaries, it's not easy, it hurts and it goes against what we value when it comes to bloodline family members. For you to dedicate a whole portion of your piece to give me flowers brought me to tears! I can't help but feel undeserving of this huge dedication but I am honored to know you feel this way about me. I had been feeling like I was taking up too much space, and here you come applauding me for being different. I try to be intentional when I say this, but Bri please understand I love you! I see you! Your energy feels familiar, like a friend, like a sister and I am so grateful we connected. Sometimes is weird saying these things to a 'stranger' on the internet but you aren't a stranger because you see me just as I see you! Let's keep growing through these changes together! I'm a 33 years old first time author and I'm struggling to secure a home for my family - I am Jelly Roll just as you are in your own ways. Maybe this space wasn't only to write but to make these connections we were longing for! Giving you a BIG BIG BIG hug right now!

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Now here I go crying… because I feel the same way!

From the start your energy felt like that of a life long friend. We must be kindred spirits because while our paths may not be the same, they are very much adjacent.

I am the 36 year old Jelly Roll establishing myself as a writer and coach, while trying to maintain this home on one income. I didn’t know what I would find when I returned to Substack. The first time was brief and lonely.

I wondered if there were any biopic on a similar journey that I could relate to. Everything felt… established… while I was just trying to at least get my toe in the water.

You are deserving of the portion of this piece because you deserve your flowers in real time. You have encouraged me to write on days I didn’t want to and let me know that I’m not alone in this journey.

If I gain nothing else, I gained a writing/healing sister in this journey and I appreciate the time you pour into me, even if you didn’t know! 🫶🏽

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No, I'm STILL crying because Bri why would you say all of this nice stuff to me!? I agree we must be kindred spirits, there is no way we haven't known each other in past lifetimes. But in this one, we are going to do it right (I giggled a little thinking we probably say this everytime we connect in a lifetime lol).

I will admit I long for life long friends, people that I can travel to visit or meet up for vacations. I came here not focused on being popular but making the right connections. Safe to say things are working out for both of us as planned.

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